When Dreaming Becomes Dodging
Let’s get right into it and talk about when dreaming becomes dodging.
You know that moment... The dream is calling you, and it's so clear in your head, but then it moves from the Dreaming Stage to the Doing Stage, and suddenly, you start squirming.
That’s the moment when some of us unconsciously sabotage the whole thing by pivoting to something new.
Not because we’re lazy. Not because we don’t care.
But because finishing something makes it REAL—and real means...
It could fail.
It could be judged.
Real means we’ll finally see if this thing can stand on its own.
So instead, we dodge.
We jump to the next idea.
We stir up excitement somewhere new.
And we call it "vision"… but deep down, we know it’s avoidance.
Listen, I’ve done this, and I’ve seen others do it, too.
But I’ve learned that the antidote to dodging is sequencing—and I'm here to tell you it’s the only way to get your dreams to the finish line.
What do I mean when I say "sequencing?"
Sequencing means choosing what goes first.
Not everything at once. Not “yes” to every good idea.
It's a process. Each step has to wait its turn.
Let me give you an example:
I'm juggling several projects right now. I've launched Reinvention Hub, we're refining our leadership development curriculum, and I've partnered with Weird Productions on a women's salon series. All of that COULD lead to other mini projects. Podcast appearances, speaking opportunities, writing... right?
But before I get lost in the sauce, I have to FIRST make sure the main thing stays the main thing.
What's the core of my business that supports my audience and team? The answer to that is my priority and should get 80% of my focus.
That leaves 20% to take discovery meetings, explore an idea I had in the shower, get lost on ChatGPT... but I can't let side quests become the main mission.
Because if I said yes to everything that sounds exciting, I'd never finish anything.
It's essential to slow down. Prioritize. And remind myself that the sequence is just as sacred as the dream itself.
Now, I gave the example of my business... because that's my dream. But what is it for you? And is it getting the attention it needs?
This week, here’s what I want you to do:
Identify your main dream. Write it down.
Ask yourself: What has to happen first?
Evaluate how much of your focus you're giving it. Is it 80%?
And most importantly—what are you avoiding because you’re afraid of what happens next?
Let’s name it.
Let’s finish it. No dodging.
Let’s give our dreams the structure they need to take root.
Because switching lanes halfway through might feel safer—but staying the course?
That’s what changes everything.
You’ve got this.
